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Originally posted by FlavaFLOSS
If you will, think about it. If he does NOT have any more feelings for her, why is he giving her shelter? Taking in another person is a big responsibility. You don't just do it out of pity.
no, face the facts. just because you don't have loving feelings for a person in the context of a relationship or dating, does that mean you will deny a person help when he/she needs it? you failed to mention compassion, kindness, or even simply humanity as reason enough to take care of someone in need.
if my ex-girlfriend showed up on my steps asking for help, i would give it instantaneously, regardless if i had a gf or not. is it because i have feelings for her? no, that wouldn't be the case with me personally. it would rather be because she's someone who deserves help; i know enough about her to know that our failed relationship does not change for a second the fact that she is still a good person with a good heart.
you don't have to be einstein to know that taking in another person is a big responsibility. but it's a bigger responsibility to bear the burden of guilt and regret, to deny help to someone who you know deserves it. not because you love him/her still after the relationship has passed, but because you shared a connection with that person at a earlier point in your life to know he/she deserves the help he/she needs.
you don't just do it out of pity. you do it because you know you have to. it's called being a decent human being, so look up the definition of one next time you post.
p.s. - it's not smart to say at the beginning of your post "it's really okay to feel suspicious or jealous" and then to end your post with something like "only trust and honesty will help you". really, it just isn't.
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08-24-2003 05:48 PM
