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Hello Mike.
I'm not a love expert, but I think I can give you a few wordings that might either cheer you up or bring you down. I'm sorry if it's the second one. :(
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But recently she has told me she no longer loves me.
Mike, let me tell you something, if she loves you, she won't just wake up one more and decide not to love you. There has to be reasons.
+ Have you asked her why she claims that she doesn't love you?
If she tells you just because she's bored, that's not a reason. If she tells you that she just doesn't care, it can't be true- considering the fact that you two once loved each other (and that you still do).
- Ask her for a reason, and maybe you can work things out from there.
(I'm going a little off topic here, but I just read this story called "Just One Last Call", and the girl decides to break up with her boyfriend because she discovered that she had cancer. She ran away from him, then when they met again, she pushed him away. Just wanted to share that. :P)
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She was the first person I ever opened up to, the first person to ever hear me cry. I am so tough, but when she is sad or hurt, I cant help but cry.
It's a normal thing. When you love someone, you share in their pain as well. It's okay to cry. There's always a first to everything.
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No matter how much she pushes me away, no matter how much she tells me she hates me. I still want to be there for her.
Have you ever considered giving her space? Maybe she needs time to think things through. Maybe she just haven't discovered how much you mean to her because she knows that you're always going to be there. Give her a little space, and if she claims that she still doesn't need you, it's time to move on. Just like the quote:
"If you love someone, let them go. If they come back, it's destiny. If they don't, it was never meant to be."
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I know I dunt have no pride, but when it comes to her, i dunt care.
Oh the foolish things love makes you do. I don't think anyone has any pride when it comes to love.
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She told me tonight, she was going to have another bf soon.
There are many possibilities behind that statement.
+ She might have been cheating behind your back while she was with you, then she breaks up with you so she can be with him.
+ She's testing you for a reaction. Will you still pursue her? Will you fight for her?
+ She might have said that to make it easier for you to let go.
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Why does love bring such joy yet pain??
If love doesn't bring pain, how will you know what joy is? Love and Pain is a couple. You can't have one without the other.
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Im thinking if I get out of her life for good, she will be happy?
Even if she claims that she doesn't love you anymore, I can honestly say that she won't be too happy. It hurts to let go one thing for another. And for her case, she's letting you go for a her own reason.
The question is not will she be happy, but rather- will you be happy? Will you be able to smile for her if she loves another person? Will a portion of your heart find contentment over pain if you see her smiling for another man?
You ask yourself if you're ready to let go. Ask yourself if you're ready to be happy for her.
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But its so hard to walk away.. Im only 19 years old.. my heart cant take all this no more.
Walking away is always the hardest thing to do in life, but if your heart fight the dark clouds, you'll be able to look back and a rainbow will appear in the sky. It's your time to decide if you're going to fight or stay.
I know you might say this is so cliche, but 19 is such a young age. You might not believe me when I say this, but in the future, you might meet someone who will be able to caress the ache in your soul and heal the hurt in your heart. And then, at that time, you might thank the girl in your memory for giving you the chance to meet the person who truly loves you.
Mike, it's either now or never, put up a final fight and move on with the results, or stay still and drown in your own misery without a concluded ending to a chapter in your love story.
I hope I've helped.
Kind regards,
Ane~
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08-16-2003 10:18 AM
