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Ladi Jay
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what's wrong with it?

What's wrong with interracial dating?

Him and I are committed. We want to be together. Why can't parents---as well as outsiders---just accept the fact that I love him and he loves me?

Honestly, I don't even see him as the Korean/Japanese/White boyfriend. I see him as someone I fell in love with. Someone I really care about. Just another regular cute boy who I love.

Really... tell me what's wrong about dating someone who's not the same race as me?

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Nothing.

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Are you fucking stupid? Now you cant go to certain restaurants, parks or public areas.

OHHHHHHHHHH wait. That was over 40 years ago, segregation was outlawed. If your parents cant get over the fact that you have a boyfriend from another ethnic race, then they should take a long hard look in the mirror. They sound like shitty parents to me

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cuz some parents are stubborn as a mofo. Deal with it.

They are extra extra stubborn when they hear their teenage daughter mention something about "love".

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my parents are like that too...but only with black and hispanic people..i have no idea why..if my bf was black or hispanic id still date him..cuz i dont like him because of his race..i dont know why parents cant just see past someones skin color, accent, or wutever it may be.....i guess cuz they grew up in a whole different generation?? and were raised by parents grown up in a wayyy more different generation?? iono..but it MUST stop.

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racial purity...

today most of us live in a very liberal setting so interracial dating isn't considered bad...

its pretty much the generation gap... first generation asians vs the second generation... we live in a society that shrug such things as normal, but first generation comes from a society where nationality is pretty homogenous, so its a bit weird for them when they see their children dating other races... it all really depends how americanized or whatever your parents are...

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Nothing.

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consider it a strong preference rather than a matter of right/wrong

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i never really understood the big deal between interracial relationships either... and yeah with me my parents only let me be with asians and white ppl.. no one else.
i never understood that either. i remember i was talking to my mom one time about it, and i asked her what she would do if i married a black guy. [to me it really doesnt make a difference, i dont think race should matter at all] and she started crying telling me how she wouldnt be able to come to my house and take care of my child cuz its half black. and i was like wtf? why? and she just explained that for all her life she dreamed about raising her granddaughter in just one culture.
i guess its because since my moms half chinese and half korean. she told me when she was little she used to picked on alot cuz she wasnt "pure" she was mixed and that meant she was dirty or something. she didnt really have a good childhood because of that..
i guess its because she doesnt want that to happen in the future.. its understandable.
and my dad.. he doesnt like other races especially blacks because unfortunately for him, his experiences and encounters with some of the black people in his life, werent the best ones, and yeah that doesnt justify him being prejudice towards all of them.. everyones different but basically my point is
yeah its a generation gap cuz thats what our parents were taught but it could also be because of past experiences that they had that they wanna prevent.
but thats just what i think, i think you should just talk..
best solution to everything ^^
hey.. im korean/chinese/hawaiian so..
yeah... hahaha idk xD

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quote:
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If your parents cant get over the fact that you have a boyfriend from another ethnic race, then they should take a long hard look in the mirror. They sound like shitty parents to me


right on.

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Re: what's wrong with it?

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Originally posted by Ladi Jay
What's wrong with interracial dating?

Him and I are committed. We want to be together. Why can't parents---as well as outsiders---just accept the fact that I love him and he loves me?

Honestly, I don't even see him as the Korean/Japanese/White boyfriend. I see him as someone I fell in love with. Someone I really care about. Just another regular cute boy who I love.

Really... tell me what's wrong about dating someone who's not the same race as me?



hey me and my girl are in the same situation, your hmong right? my gf is hmong too and we love each other alot, my parents are cool with it, but her parents dont accept it, she can only date hmong guys, which is totally stupid, i am multiracial so interacial dating has always been fine with me, but just hang in there.

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hey me and my girl are in the same situation, your hmong right? my gf is hmong too and we love each other alot, my parents are cool with it, but her parents dont accept it, she can only date hmong guys, which is totally stupid, i am multiracial so interacial dating has always been fine with me, but just hang in there.


you're dating a Hmong girl and your mixed... sounds kinda like my situation. how do you two deal with it???

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you're dating a Hmong girl and your mixed... sounds kinda like my situation. how do you two deal with it???


honestly, her parents dont know about me, well they know but not that we are dating, they found out we were "friends who were talking" and they took the phone away, pick her up and take her to school so she cant see me, but i bought her a cell so we can still talk and i sneek into her room everynight, i know its bad, but we love each other so who cares. but we are juss trying to be patient until she goes to college, then its total freedom. its hard, but you got to deal with it, and u gotta know that if ur parents dont accept now they prolly wont ever, but maybe you can talk to them or get him to talk to them? good luck

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honestly, her parents dont know about me, well they know but not that we are dating, they found out we were "friends who were talking" and they took the phone away, pick her up and take her to school so she cant see me, but i bought her a cell so we can still talk and i sneek into her room everynight, i know its bad, but we love each other so who cares. but we are juss trying to be patient until she goes to college, then its total freedom. its hard, but you got to deal with it, and u gotta know that if ur parents dont accept now they prolly wont ever, but maybe you can talk to them or get him to talk to them? good luck


how wierd... it sounds so much like my relationship...

but Josh and I are trying to deal with it our best. it's hard but I think that if Josh and I keep it together for a while, then my parents will start to respect what I want.

honestly, this is so interesting! I never knew someone would be in such a similar situation as me.

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they found out we were "friends who were talking" and they took the phone away, pick her up and take her to school so she cant see me


damn thats fucked up.

college is the answer.

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