I have problems getting them to listen for their own good... I try to be nice about it and every time I do, they don't listen and do it anyways.... so when I yell, they actually listen but then they get all bitchy about it too... what am I supposed to do? let them learn themselves? I can't do that because it could totally ruin their future... that's why I don't let them do it...

Anyways, my younger sister is dating a 19 year old guy... she's 14. know what I mean? I don't like what she's got herself into, mainly because he's legal, and she's not... I tell them and make sure they know I don't approve because it's for their best interest... I really don't like the guy... because he's not a good guy... He drinks every night with his buddies, was a drop out, doesn't have a job, basically a bum... but, it's not mainly because of that... it's mainly because he has gotten my sister into so much trouble over the past 6 months and he hurts my sister all the time... I tell her how I feel but she doesn't care... I've even cried because he's so mean to her... should I even care anymore? she doesn't seem to care about what I have to say... ever since they started dating, we have not gotten along like how we used to... she's secretive now and she's abandoned herself from having conversations with me...

she makes me mad, sad, upset, angry...

she sometimes even says that I'm just jealous... I'm not

am I doing something wrong? am I pushing too much? is it really not any of my business? what should I do?

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In my humble opinion, you should keep on letting on to your sis to be careful about this guy. Maybe it will turn out ok but lots of things can happen at that age and well....as a sister....you should be looking out for her best interest....

I'm not saying that it's not going to be hard. I have a younger brother and I've butted heads with him enough times to know...but I always tell him that I am only looking out for him and I am being brutally honest with him because I care.

Hang in there...she will eventually realize that u trully are on her side.

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hmm... i don really care about age.. but i do care about..-_-;; like.. druggie.. and everything..so yup..hmm..your sis is one year older than me?.. maybe it'z hard for you.. but just..let her do everything.. =_=; wut she wantz.. cuz.. if you keep saying no no no..then she'll like him more and more.. he makes your sis cried?.. that's such bad thing..T_T.. i hate wen boyz make girlz cry.. hmm.. just let her do everything... but it'z gonna be hard.. cuz.. he's not that good bf...... you no..;;... i wish he was a great guy..T_T then there'z no problem..T_T hOo..

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you're pushing too much. She'll hear what she wants to hear, but it's harder to see waht you only want to see. That's when she'll realize if he truly is a bad guy. Stay around and look out for her. Don't just tell her he is a bad guy over and over, that can get annoying and she'll stop listening, she probably all ready has. There isn't a whole lot you can do. Lay off, and watch out for her.

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i agree with PsychoSnowman. it seems like you've done everything you basically CAN do, and if she still isn't listening, then you don't have much of a choice but to let things run their course, do you? i hav to say i admire you for sticking to this tho. if my sister were doing that and she wasn't listening to me, i would have told her that i wouldn't be there for her to cry to later on because she's being such a stupid ass. so kudos to you. hope everything works out ok for her. maybe she'll wake up and realize that older people aren't trying to ruin her life, but are trying to make it better

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forget it... I've sat back too long... it's already over, like I can't do anything about it now

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