i'm sister is having a problem and i wanna help her... she feels that my parents yell at her 2 much like about getting off the phone when she isn't even on it. she cries about it in her room cuz she's angry about how she is treated. i tell her to tell them how u feel and stuff but she just.... shrugz and she doesn't do shit. i wanna help her get da load off her bak but i don't want to force her to do stuff... someone give me advise

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man just talk to your parents. but ask her first, because she will probably end up getting mad at you. btw how old is she?

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man just talk to your parents. but ask her first, because she will probably end up getting mad at you. btw how old is she?

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just have her talk to them ted. my sister has the same thing but now she goes to counseling and she's on medication.. my mom and her fight a lot once my sister disagrees or something. its better for her to talk to then before anything else happens

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well... YOU could always help! besides, you're the big brother!

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Awww, what a sweet gesture to help out your little sister.

I've had this problem with my parents before. They use to accuse me of doing things I didn't do (like getting on the internet too much or sleeping until late!). I know how frustrating it is not to be able to voice out your defense when someone 'superior' is being stubborn (even if they know they are wrong!).

To help out your little sister, it depends on how the relationship in your family runs.

If you're an open family, then it makes things easier because she can just tell your parents how she feels. Maybe they can come to a compromise about what is mutual for both parties. Have a nice family talk, or you can even talk to her alone. Comfort her and explain to her why your parents are the way they are (you can even lie about it just to make her feel better). Or better yet, you should talk to your parents because it's better when the older one speaks up. Defending her is also a good thing to do because it'll make her feel like she knows she's not to blame, and hopefully, it'll get your parents to see that they need to stop with assumptions and accusations.

But if your family isn't so out in the open, then it's better to just talk to her alone. Don't try telling her to talk to your parents because they will either tell her to go away or just shrug it off. She probably won't feel comfortable enough to talk to them anyways. I know how it's like with most asian family. Some family don't even share hugs or kisses, and it might be awkward to even initiate small talks about feelings. It's better if you just tell her to not mind them or just try to avoid them when she feels like she doesn't want to put up with crap. (Hehe)

And if you really do want to take the load off her back, take her out and let her have some fun. She's 12. She's growing. She's learning. She's going through peer pressures. Talk to her. Mentor her. Advise her. Guide her.

Kids now a days grow up really fast, and if you loose grip of them now, then you might not be able to bring them back.

^_^ You're such a cutie, you know that?

Ane~

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i do try talkin 2 her about her problem but she seems like... she doesn't care about anything i say, maybe because i'm always guiding her threw stuff and he wants to do thing by herself. i really haven't talked 2 her about it cuz she cry over it because it makes it her so mad, even if i just remind her about the problem like last nite she was yelling at me about my room being messy... and i said "stop yelling at me"... she started tearing up and i just sat there feelin like i did something wrong.... but i will go talk to her about it, thats for the advise people

oh and if u do talk to her, don't tell her about this thread.... i donno if she'll like me talking about family problems to other people...

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i do try talkin 2 her about her problem but she seems like... she doesn't care about anything i say, maybe because i'm always guiding her threw stuff and he wants to do thing by herself. i really haven't talked 2 her about it cuz she cry over it because it makes it her so mad, even if i just remind her about the problem like last nite she was yelling at me about my room being messy... and i said "stop yelling at me"... she started tearing up and i just sat there feelin like i did something wrong.... but i will go talk to her about it, thats for the advise people

oh and if u do talk to her, don't tell her about this thread.... i donno if she'll like me talking about family problems to other people...

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ha ha ha! I'M GOING TO PRINT THIS THREAD OUT AND GIVE IT TO HER!!!! just kidding. i have no advice that wasn't given yet, possibly it's just a mild case of depression...

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If she yells at you don't say "stop yelling" instead try talking to her in a calm voice so she would calm down. (I read that if someone is yelling you can calm them down by speaking calmly, I have no idea if this is true but it's worth a shot.)



On a side note, how do children who don't have older siblings get thier guidance if children who have them are so dependant on thier siblings?

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i'm not telling her name xP, she goes 2 SOMS... uhh yeah i'm wonmin's friend.... yeah i cs... yeah i go 2 x.... wutz ur username?

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wuts her name and school? plus liquid arnt u wonmins friend?

you cst too right? i think iv seen u a couple of times playing.. oh yeah in x-zone too.. heheh u were there.. but i 0wned jo0~~

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give her some drugs

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smack her.
seriously.

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woops.

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What the?

The last three suggestions were either repetative or mean.

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What the?

The last three suggestions were either repetative or mean.

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i think you mean: "The last three suggestions were either repetative AND/OR mean."

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Have you tried getting her to hang out with you when you're with your friends? Maybe she'll trust you if you do.

I'd be very careful, this situation sounds serious. I hope everything works out for you and her.

Do your parents know about this situation? Perhaps you should tell them to seriously consider what's going on.

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