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daNNy LuV 1TYM
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the role of an older sibling

a couple of days ago my sister told me that she was going to go out with her friends and that she would be home before our parents got home. i said fine. the next day, my parents unexpectedly come home early and are very alarmed at finding ym sister missing. they ask me where she is, but i tried to cover for her. they just got angrier and when my sister finally got home they blew up at both of us. we're both being punished. my mom and dad say that as a big sister, i should assume more responsibility and try to protect and guide my little sister. i think my sister is old enough to decide for herself what course of action to follow. besides, it's not like i've never went out without telling my parents first (i guess they just don't know). if it were you, would you have covered for your sibling?

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yea i covered for my sis .. she was gone for like 4-5 days! .. wow! i am good ..

but i am gone for like 1 nite .. and my dad finds out .. and blows it all out of proportion .. and we both get grounded and get curfews !

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thats the payment for tryin to have some fun

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Having a sister is like having a best friend you can't get rid of. You know whatever you do, they'll still be there. ~Amy Li


A sister is a little bit of childhood that can never be lost. ~Marion C. Garretty


Is solace anywhere more comforting than in the arms of a sister. ~Alice Walker


Big sisters are the crab grass in the lawn of life. ~Charles M. Schultz


If you don't understand how a woman could both love her sister dearly and want to wring her neck at the same time, then you were probably an only child. ~Linda Sunshine


You can kid the world. But not your sister. ~Charlotte Gray


I would like more sisters, that the taking out of one, might not leave such stillness. ~Emily Dickinson


Help one another, is part of the religion of sisterhood. ~Louisa May Alcott


Sisters never quite forgive each other for what happened when they were five. ~Pam Brown


In thee my soul shall own combined the sister and the friend. ~Catherine Killigrew


Brothers and sisters are as close as hands and feet. ~Vietnamese Proverb


A sister can be seen as someone who is both ourselves and very much not ourselves - a special kind of double. ~Toni Morrison


What's the good of news if you haven't a sister to share it? ~Jenny DeVries


Sisters is probably the most competitive relationship within the family, but once the sisters are grown, it becomes the strongest relationship. ~Margaret Mead


Bless you, my darling, and remember you are always in the heart - oh tucked so close there is no chance of escape - of your sister. ~Katherine Mansfield


A sister smiles when one tells one's stories - for she knows where the decoration has been added. ~Chris Montaigne


More than Santa Claus, your sister knows when you've been bad and good. ~Linda Sunshine


If sisters were free to express how they really feel, parents would hear this: "Give me all the attention and all the toys and send Rebecca to live with Grandma." ~Linda Sunshine


My sister taught me everything I really need to know, and she was only in sixth grade at the time. ~Linda Sunshine


How do people make it through life without a sister? ~Sara Corpening


If your sister is in a tearing hurry to go out and cannot catch your eye, she's wearing your best sweater. ~Pam Brown


There can be no situation in life in which the conversation of my dear sister will not administer some comfort to me. ~Mary Montagu


When sisters stand shoulder to shoulder, who stands a chance against us? ~Pam Brown


The mildest, drowsiest sister has been known to turn tiger if her sibling is in trouble. ~Clara Ortega


I know some sisters who only see each other on Mother's Day and some who will never speak again. But most are like my sister and me... linked by volatile love, best friends who make other best friends ever so slightly less best. ~Patricia Volk


Sisterly love is, of all sentiments, the most abstract. Nature does not grant it any functions. ~Ugo Betti


Sisters function as safety nets in a chaotic world simply by being there for each other. ~Carol Saline


Sweet is the voice of a sister in the season of sorrow. ~Benjamin Disraeli


Elder sisters never can do younger ones justice! ~Charlotte M. Yonge


A sister is a gift to the heart, a friend to the spirit, a golden thread to the meaning of life. ~Isadora James


To the outside world we all grow old. But not to brothers and sisters. We know each other as we always were. We know each other's hearts. We share private family jokes. We remember family feuds and secrets, family griefs and joys. We live outside the touch of time. ~Clara Ortega


The best thing about having a sister was that I always had a friend. ~Cali Rae Turner


An older sister helps one remain half child, half woman. ~Author Unknown


An older sister is a friend and defender - a listener, conspirator, a counsellor and a sharer of delights. And sorrows too. ~Pam Brown


Our brothers and sisters are there with us from the dawn of our personal stories to the inevitable dusk. ~Susan Scarf Merrell


I don't believe an accident of birth makes people sisters or brothers. It makes them siblings, gives them mutuality of parentage. Sisterhood and brotherhood is a condition people have to work at. ~Maya Angelou


A sibling may be the keeper of one's identity, the only person with the keys to one's unfettered, more fundamental self. ~Marian Sandmaier


Our siblings push buttons that cast us in roles we felt sure we had let go of long ago - the baby, the peacekeeper, the caretaker, the avoider.... It doesn't seem to matter how much time has elapsed or how far we've traveled. ~Jane Mersky Leder


Our siblings. They resemble us just enough to make all their differences confusing, and no matter what we choose to make of this, we are cast in relation to them our whole lives long. ~Susan Scarf Merrell


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Siblings are the people we practice on, the people who teach us about fairness and cooperation and kindness and caring - quite often the hard way. ~Pamela Dugdale


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Sisters annoy, interfere, criticize. Indulge in monumental sulks, in huffs, in snide remarks. Borrow. Break. Monopolize the bathroom. Are always underfoot. But if catastrophe should strike, sisters are there. Defending you against all comers. ~Pam Brown


Between sisters, often, the child's cry never dies down. "Never leave me," it says; "do not abandon me." ~Louise Bernikow


Sisterhood is powerful. ~Robin Morgan


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One of the best things about being an adult is the realization that you can share with your sister and still have plenty for yourself. ~Betsy Cohen


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some of these...are so...touching i'm glad i hav a lil sister now

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It depends on the situation. If I know she's doing something she's not supposed to, then I won't. But most of the time, I don't because I know that if I do, I'll get into trouble from my parents... because they find out some way anyways...

for instance, I could tell my dad a whole different story and when my sister gets home, she can tell him another whole different story... then she's busted... and so am I for lying...

besides that, I can't lie to my parents... I've never had the guts to lie...

so the role of an older sister...

my younger sisters believe that the role of an older sister is to do everything they do, and accept everything they do as right. They think that I, as the older sister, should stop telling them what to do...

But, they have to understand my point of view. I'm the oldest and my parents believe that if they do anything wrong, it's my fault. Everything they do always comes back to me, the oldest sister. So that's why I yell at them (because when I speak nicely, they don't listen anyways). I approach them with what I believe and try to make them understand---at least to a point. jeebus, I could go on and on but I'll stop here... for now.

so basically, I think the role of an older sibling is to act upon things in a well manner. show them what is wrong, and what is right. and basically watch out for them. of course, they'll think you're a pain in the butt, but I've always thought that:

Those who care, will yell at you. Those who don't, won't say anything.

I'd elaborate more but again, later... besides, my brain's not working!

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so basically, I think the role of an older sibling is to act upon things in a well manner. show them what is wrong, and what is right. and basically watch out for them. of course, they'll think you're a pain in the butt, but I've always thought that:

Those who care, will yell at you. Those who don't, won't say anything.


that's true; i mean, yelling is better than silence, which my sister and i had at one point. we just didn't talk.
but i mean, i thought sisters were supposed to be friends too. obviously, we're not supposed to let them get into major trouble, but should we stop them from just a little harmless fun? i wud feel like a mom myself if i didn't let her do anything. that's not to say everything she wants to do is bad, but there are some things parents don't sympathize to...

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In some things, I would cover for my brother...esp. if I know it'll make a mountain out of a molehill of a situation. BUT I would not cover for anything that he knows is WRONG to do...meaning..he already asked the 'rents and they already refused....

Kinda doesn't make any sense huh??

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In some things, I would cover for my brother...esp. if I know it'll make a mountain out of a molehill of a situation. BUT I would not cover for anything that he knows is WRONG to do...meaning..he already asked the 'rents and they already refused....

Kinda doesn't make any sense huh??


that makes sense...i guess i'm just to blame then cuz she was sneaking out. *sigh* i just didn't think it was that bad because i do that sometimes too. oh well, she won't be grounded anymore at the end of this month -___-

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man, my bro found a porno video in my room. hes 28 i think by now. it wasnt mine!! my friend came over and left it in my house... so it was sitting in my desk. i forgot that i even had it, till he found it 4 months later. o man.. was i in deep shiet... my bro can tend to get worse than my parents. hed probably make a good subsitute for my parents too. one time i didn't do my kumon homework, he got a meter stick and beat my (_x_).

yes, my parents give my bro permission to punish me, cause they too lazy themself. "ring ring, hello?" "hey sam, andy got a C on his midterm for global, should we punish him?" "nah, i got it... heh heh ..., his cable modems mine ... "

nooo!!! so my cable modem is gone...

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man, my bro found a porno video in my room. hes 28 i think by now. it wasnt mine!! my friend came over and left it in my house... so it was sitting in my desk. i forgot that i even had it, till he found it 4 months later. o man.. was i in deep shiet... my bro can tend to get worse than my parents. hed probably make a good subsitute for my parents too. one time i didn't do my kumon homework, he got a meter stick and beat my (_x_).



remember we were watching together when we were in like 7th grade
and whenever we hear someone coming upstairs ud be like "turn it off! push the stop button!"

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remember we were watching together when we were in like 7th grade
and whenever we hear someone coming upstairs ud be like "turn it off! push the stop button!"



ahahhaaha... yeah i remember! o man, those were the good old days..

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