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Re: Question..
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Originally posted by LuvSunghoonie
Hmm I was wondering...
is it bad that I am physically attracted to someone else when I am emotionally connected with my significant other?
I mean.. I kind of was already physically attracted to this guy before I started dating my boyfriend right now.. so should I feel guilty?
yes, you should feel guilty. and face the facts, it is NOT perfectly fine to look. don't even start with all that "its normal to do it, human nature, im just looking, etc" bullshit. once it gets to that point, you might as well drop your current relationship because then it's a matter of lost morals and a misconception of what a relationship is all about. i know its pointless to say anything about 'love' here since everyone except a few are teenagers, but i want to explain that a key aspect of it is devotion.
it is not your damn place to pick and choose what parts of a person your having a relationship with to admire while subconsciously striving to fulfill the missing elements from someone else. if you go into a relationship, you better know from the start that your accepting that person for what he/she is, 100%. and don't get me wrong, okay.
i could care less if your shallow like that, because we all can get like that at times. but the one time you should NOT be like that is when you are in a relationship with someone else, where you've committed yourself to that person and everything that person is, whether he may be smart but not good-looking, good-looking but a total jerk, etc.
if you're not content with your boyfriend, then i'll say it again, save him the bullshit you're going to emotionally put him through in the future and break up with him now. know what you want, and in the serious dating world, it's a rule that what you want can't be split into two seperate people.
got it? good luck with your situation.
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04-04-2004 02:11 PM
