The reason i asked was not because i thought my aquaintance with the sitatuion of rape was superceded yours, but because you continually acted like yours was. you didn't answer anything in my post, and then just say "well, if rape hits close to home then it gets very serious." As if you were questioning the validity of mine. You were the one acting like the entire rape scene revolved around you, not me. I was saying in my inquiry that no matter what the situation of rape, there is no prioritization, ok? But, obviously you think that you have more knowledge in this area than i do, as i quote from you: "why is my situation is prioritized over yours? shit, the world doesnt revolve around you, but if you want an answer:" Your the one being the "prime example. You think Terrorism is a joke (I'm Pakistani btw, and my parents lived their 30-some years of there life with family there right now)? It's not. 6 suicide bombers in 6 days? You think thats infinitely less important than rape? This is a regular occurence! The killing of hundreds of lives, huh? You didn't even respond, all i hear is this sob story. My point is that people are able to find even slight joy in the jesting of horrible events. And that is not a bad thing.
And if you think humor could not make your situation any better, you are wrong. It has come to where you guys cry about it, and you think that you would cry and feel terrible about the predicament if you would take a less serious approach to it. Listen, i can't tell your friend what to think of her victimization, but you are actually here and i'm telling you, it doesn't need to take over your life. It's as if you are on the brink constantly with this mentality of seriousness and that any "stupidass comment" that you hear, you explode on. Just because i think this way doesn't mean you have to. I never said so, i never heard any rationale for your mentality other than your continual restating of your rape story. It doesn't matter what she and you went through, we're talking about how people cope with the situation and avoid it (not who's story is worse). I never said you had to think the way i do, but you don't seem open to anything (you don't need to accuse me of saying i am not, because on one hand i do agree with you, but on the other i just don't), and your mentality sure doesn't seem to make you happy they way you are coping right now. I'm not the prime example, i'm just suggesting it to you. It sounds horrible what happened to your friend, and what you must have gone through. I do apologize for being the catalyst for your angry feelings towards my comment and me. Though you could be getting uptight needlessly. It's a sad event, and though a comment may remind you of it you don't need to explode on it or dwell, it's unnecesary to have this rage and unhealthy in my opinion (no you don't need to think the way i do, this isn't the prime example, and the world doesn't revolve around me, i'm giving you advice not a lecture, learn how to take it.). Though you just accuse me of saying i'm the paradigm for all to follow, when i am not.
You want to keep on living the way you are and coping with rape the way you want, then fine. My friend seems better off than yours (as you described her times) and thats not just due to her predicament (if your interested she was drugged at a party, and tried to get away when she began to notice and a guy was following her closeby but it was too late. As she started to run the drug was all ready taking effect and she collapsed. Giving her a nasty injury on her forehead. She woke up later, but never got the guy who did it to her. Her "friends" assumed she left early and left her) Though that didn't happen three times, i think that her humor towards the event has helped her get through it. And if it doesn't for you then fine, but thats my opinion. If it helps, why not? Anyway, you put an awful lot of words in my mouth. I'm suggesting this to you. What you do with it is up to you. I'm not putting my self on a "higher level" in this area, but you haven't said anything in response to me, except repetition of your story and telling me to learn some tact. Just because i wrote down some rationale doesn't make me a prime example. It was your interpretation. And again, your hostile comments and mentality is not being helped by your serious attitude (i know i've said this a lot, but you don't acknowledge it).
And finally, yes, there was no harm intended in the comment, believe it because it doesn't have to always be occur.
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