quote: Originally posted by psyTeK ver. 2.0
face the facts, you don't deserve a girl like that with your pessimistic attitude and low self-confidence. and by the way, from the way you described her solely based on physical appearance, all you have towards her is lust and physical attraction.
read what you wrote. how do you describe her personality? do you even care about her inner qualities? let me answer that for you, with your very own words: "she's not a total ditz". if that's all u can say... then your shallow as hell.
you bring up looks, popularity, and financial status into your problem, which all leads to one conclusion: your perception on love is messed up. those are NOT factors that should be found affecting the people you like and care for. don't be a fool; you have no clue what love is about, and have no right to go around saying you "love" this girl when you should instead be saying something along the lines of "she makes me horny when i see her".
and this is where i get mean and say that if you know your mad ugly, then be realistic with your standards. don't go chasing after people you know you can't get.
yes exactly sang, i was about to say that as well. You presupposed wrong here psytek, i usually agree with you, but you're making this thread into a "love" thread when it's nothing more than an infatuation/lust/crush thread. It's even called "crush thread" it's a crush, you're harping over nothing. Looks like he all ready knows that. Sure you could argue it's in "love and dating," you could argue a lot of things but that'd be terrible argumentation and stupid at that. It's called "crush thread", hence it will be a crush post. Crushes aren't real love, everyone knows that, and his post is shallow because he is responding on topic...pertaining to a crush. As crushes are usually developed through physical attraction...it would be shallow. Wow, good one there buddy.
And he doesn't deserve a girl like that? Why not? Sure he does. I know you all ready said why, i say "why not" as an expression, as in you give no good reasons. A bad attitude isn't a reason why i shouldn't be able to win the nobel prize. That's exactly what you are saying. You can try and delineate between my example and yours but i don't think you'll be able to. And, no need to harp over the fact that i'm objectifying women here, cause i'm not really...if i am it's effectual and hence i dont' care cause i'm responding to your logic, and if i must objectify in the process i don't think it will matter that much. Anyway, who cares if i compare women to the nobel prize, that is how your line of thinking was headed if i extrapolated beyond far enough.
who cares if he is shallow? I really don't, and sure you could simply respond ot this and say "i do," but really...why is it that important? He isn't even saying this is his ideal "love", he's saying it's his crush. I'm sure you've had them before. And, if you were to describe one of your crushes we could all say the same thing to you, and it'd still be that irrelevent since it'd still be a crush, not love.
When he said he "love[s] this girl so much" i'm sure he meant that he has deep caring feelings for her and realizes it's not a real love. You presupposed this was his epitome of "love" just becuase he tossed the word out there. You could argue a trivialization argument about how using the word trivializes it's meaning, but it won't get you anywhere. Pay attention to the context and that will give you the answer.
Finally, it's not like he's chasing after her. For the tenth time, it's only a crush. He says he wants to, but do you see him doing it? not really, cause he's not. Furthermore, why not go and chase after the best? Nothing wrong with that. If you fail what do you get? Maybe emotional hurt, but then again i don't really care for emotions. Yep, fun stuff.
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