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talking to girls.

i have a little problem. i can't talk to girls that im attracted or have feelings for. i can talk to any other girl fine. i just can't be myself when im around sumone special. anyone else have this? how do i get over it? it becomes more of a problem because my frends end up liking me, but i guess the me that i am when i can't be myself is not very likeable. ah!

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lol im like tha same .. well, i was realliee bad wit my bf .. we were both like that .. and it was like, i liked him so much wen i was jus around it it was jus like .. wow hahha .. but now that weve been goin out its like .. i still am kind of shy .. but ive definitely got more comftorble around him and we come up wit stuff ta do now haha .. but as for helpin u .. iono cuz if this relationship were to end .. id be tha same way again prolly wit a guy i like hahaha .. but i dun wanna go thru that again im fine wit my baby hehe

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don't worry, u'll grow out of it dude... i had the same thing... just keep calm and stay kool, don't freak out just cuz u like dem

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i have trouble talking to guys i like..
i wish i didnt..

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hmm, i only have that prob. if the dude i'm crushin' on is out of my league. otherwise, i'm fine talkin' to peoples. although, i understand where ur commi'n from.. all i can say, is be honest, and don't say anything u don't hontesly mean because these small things will haunt u and no one will forget it. it's just easier to find something repulsive about all ur friends. This way, u'll never wind up crushin' on any of them. yeah, that's all, otherwise imma get off onto some other topic and yeah, ramble...

the way i got over "the fear of girls" was really through college. i learned the art of small talk.... from there you can decide to go to deeper conversations... or not.. so my small talk usually starts with

"ey wsup, how's school"
or
"ey wsup, how's church"
or
"ey wsup, how's da family"
or
"ey wsup, how's work"
or
"ey wsup, how's about a kiss"
or..
ok forget that one
"ey wsup, how about them yankees"

then you just listen and listen and then hopefully she'll be like
"so what about you?"

then you better come up with some interesting to say .. or at least something cute like..
"my hamster died.."

then she'll be like
"awww"
or
"sucks for you dawg"
or
"did you eat it?"

then you gotta reply with something witty like
"yeah... wanna come to his funeral?"

then she'll be like
"hahaha your so funny"
or
"your fucken weird ya crackhead"
or
"can i eat it?"

ok... i'm done... seeee... all sorts of options for the art of small talk.. dont let a little thing like attraction get in da way of a good conversation.. if nothing comes tou... use the hamster bit... i give you permission.-sang cheon

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Originally posted by KeN VeRsUs RyU
the way i got over "the fear of girls" was really through college. i learned the art of small talk.... from there you can decide to go to deeper conversations... or not.. so my small talk usually starts with

"ey wsup, how's school"
or
"ey wsup, how's church"
or
"ey wsup, how's da family"
or
"ey wsup, how's work"
or
"ey wsup, how's about a kiss"
or..
ok forget that one
"ey wsup, how about them yankees"

then you just listen and listen and then hopefully she'll be like
"so what about you?"

then you better come up with some interesting to say .. or at least something cute like..
"my hamster died.."

then she'll be like
"awww"
or
"sucks for you dawg"
or
"did you eat it?"

then you gotta reply with something witty like
"yeah... wanna come to his funeral?"

then she'll be like
"hahaha your so funny"
or
"your fucken weird ya crackhead"
or
"can i eat it?"

ok... i'm done... seeee... all sorts of options for the art of small talk.. dont let a little thing like attraction get in da way of a good conversation.. if nothing comes tou... use the hamster bit... i give you permission.-sang cheon

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practice. THAT's wut i need.

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Awwww. Reading about this type of situation is always so cute to me.

Do you feel butterflies and get sweaty palms when you're around the person you like?

It's okay, it's a normal feeling. ^-^

What you need to do next time is remind yourself to stay calm. Just tell yourself to be the real you, and you'll be fine.

However, a little effort into making small cute talks could make a big difference. It's okay to act cute in front of the girl you like, just don't over do it. ;)

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I don't know how to make conversation much at all. I never know what to say. I'd be terrible trying to get girls. I don't even know appropiate places to try to find one and what to say. Im quite a loser too. I don't drive at 19, never had a job, im very dumb. Theres got to be no girls out there that would want me.

I know what you mean. I can never talk to girls either, unless I'm like familiar and comfortable with them. =T

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Re: talking to girls.

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Originally posted by hnefrdo
i have a little problem. i can't talk to girls that im attracted or have feelings for. i can talk to any other girl fine. i just can't be myself when im around sumone special. anyone else have this? how do i get over it? it becomes more of a problem because my frends end up liking me, but i guess the me that i am when i can't be myself is not very likeable. ah!

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quote:

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Originally posted by KeN VeRsUs RyU

"ey wsup, how's about a kiss"
or..
ok forget that one
"ey wsup, how about them yankees"

then you just listen and listen and then hopefully she'll be like
"so what about you?"

then you better come up with some interesting to say .. or at least something cute like..
"my hamster died.."

then she'll be like
"awww"
or
"sucks for you dawg"
or
"did you eat it?"

then you gotta reply with something witty like
"yeah... wanna come to his funeral?"

then she'll be like
"hahaha your so funny"
or
"your fucken weird ya crackhead"
or
"can i eat it?"

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lmao... sang cheon is hella funny.

I suppose the only reason people are afraid to speak to someone they are attracted to is because of rejection (well duh right?). The only advice is "stop thinking so hard". All people are the same. Even if the girl doesn't like you back, or even if she does... she might still feel that there's some sort of judgement involved. Therefore both of you are nervous. That's no fun.

So......stop thinking so hard. Forget about being judged for once... no one pays that close attention to other people anyway. Remember, when you're busy thinking about how the girl will judge you... the girl is probably busy thinking about how you will judge her. We're all so self-centered. haha