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becoming distant

well my best friend and i were very close before she was going out with the person she likes. we did almost everything together before he was going out with her... now we barley even talk and hang out with each other because of him... whenever she's with him she ignores me like she doesn't even know me and she hangs out with him everyday at school and he follows her....i feel so annoyed by him because i think he's taking her away from me... before they were going out he would get all the info about her from me.. its like i was being used. i feel we're getting distant.. is it jus me? what should i do about it?

hmm....i think your friend is just ignoring you becuz i think she wants her guy to see that he is one of the top priorities in her life. altho i dont agree with it, i think that's y she is ignoring you. about being used...i think everyone does that. wenever a guy likes a girl, he would ask questions about that girl from one of her friends. i mean, did u consider the guy as a friend? if he was, and never thanked you for all the info you gave him, then, u were definitely used. i think you should just see how things play out. if that couple have a fight, and most do, becuz its part of being in relationships, than im more than sure that one of them, the guy or the girl will come to you for help and advice. maybe then, you should tell ur friend how you feel, and maybe she will change and not ignore you anymore since she has the sense that you are there to help her.

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yea he's a friend from last year too... well they never fight or anything they jus stand there talking and everything.... i walked past her this morning and she jus ignored me.. and then while we were walking inside she jus said hi but was still talkin to her bf

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Originally posted by Chinesegrl
yea he's a friend from last year too... well they never fight or anything they jus stand there talking and everything.... i walked past her this morning and she jus ignored me.. and then while we were walking inside she jus said hi but was still talkin to her bf

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did you tell your friend how you feel? you'd be surprised at how oblivios people can be to their surroundings and other people when they're talking to someone they really like. i suggest talking to both of them separately, and if they don't change, then just rest assured knowing they were never that good of a friend in the first place

talk to her

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My think you should wait a little, or if you want, tell yor friend. If she screws you, dont be her friend... or you can wait until she he gets dumped or something..... The choice is yours....

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man~ i sooo know what you're going through~ one of my friends just started goin out with her bf n now its like... we dont talk~ barely, hi, bye n thats it... we used to out n kick it~ now that she's got a bf w/ a ride it's like... all gone and for wah? i friggen dick

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although i understand that she is excited about having a boyfriend and being with them all the time, there really isnt a good reason for her to ignore u..i mean you were involved in them getting together, but most importantly, you were her best friend! it's strange how she is ignoring u...def talk to her about it...im sure eveything will be ok

all i can say is that i agree with jason.. i cant type much cause my hand is destroyed from doin his health homework lol

hmm...i hav a friend who's growing distant in another way. a new girl has come to our school and my friend hangs out with her and another group a lot more frequently now. so, yeah, similarly, i do feel she's being taken away from me. but it's not like i'm gonna say "stop hanging out with them/her and hang out with me/us" because it's her freedom to choose. so, even though we're growing distant and i'm kinda sad about it, i'm not gonna stop her from being happy. if she's happier with that group that she is with mine, then fine. also, another friend is spending a lot of time with this other group of quirky guys. my group is disintegrating before my eyes

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Originally posted by daNNy LuV 1TYM
hmm...i hav a friend who's growing distant in another way. a new girl has come to our school and my friend hangs out with her and another group a lot more frequently now. so, yeah, similarly, i do feel she's being taken away from me. but it's not like i'm gonna say "stop hanging out with them/her and hang out with me/us" because it's her freedom to choose. so, even though we're growing distant and i'm kinda sad about it, i'm not gonna stop her from being happy. if she's happier with that group that she is with mine, then fine. also, another friend is spending a lot of time with this other group of quirky guys. my group is disintegrating before my eyes

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well friends come and go, thats life.

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i guess this is could be way to find out who are your true friends...the ones who'll never leave you...but helen's right, i thought i'd be friends forever with these girls from second grade but we stopped talking once i moved away in 3rd. heh, life goes on.